A matter of trust.

You might not understand this post if the people you whom you say “close buddies” would have ignored or backstabbed you.

I have a question which I decided to ask finally: “Why do friends betray you?” Most of us or all of us might have undergone such a situation. I wonder the people whom we trust the most; know for years together; with whom we had laughed together, cried together; those memorable moments; teasing each other; sharing lunch boxes, etc. I have been trying to know why people backstab. What’s the reason behind such an act? I found these reasons to be valid:
>> “Jealousy”, some people can’t stand if we are successful.
Yes, they really can’t bear someone who is much progressed in life.

>> “Be ahead”, some people just make use of you to achieve something.
Once they’re done; they no longer need you. You are no more their friend.

Well, it really hurts to the core when we discover whom we consider “Trustworthy” have done such a thing against us.

I discussed the same with two of my friends –“why do people betray?” I found their answers to be valid.
Friend 1: “When a person whom you consider to be friend ignores you then they don’t deserve your friendship either.”

Friend 2: “Only close friends hurt a lot (It’s very true). Don’t let anyone to be close to you. Make everyone your friend but NOT a close friend.”

I agree with both my friends.

I have learnt that:
-There are two phases just like the elements of the periodic table (In chemistry). Some metals are active to some acids and some are passive. In the same way, good friends or true friends will support you till the end. The bad ones will leave.

-If they do this then they weren't really your friend to begin with and you're better off without them.

-Find some new friends, people like that aren't worth your time or energy. Don't waste another minute being pissed off, remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your permission. If you show them that this has major affect on you then they win. Don't let them win, be the bigger person and blow it off.

It reminds me one of the English movie, "Cast Away."

The ever-elusive pot of gold!

I met one of my close buddy after a long time (Can't disclose the person's name). We spoke of current affairs. As we moved on with our conversation, we also spoke of the acquainted - say our classmates, neighbors, cousins et cetera, et cetera; what they did or what they are doing, where they are. I spoke of one chap who was placed in a reputed company and was offered a handsome package as handsome he was. I noticed her countenance: her eyes popping out, saying, “How nice if I marry him!!" I was stuck in awe.

I also met one of my good friends. As we conversed, we spoke of food, gadgets, so on... At some point of conversation, told my friend that an acquainted of mine; though not a close friend joined one of the best companies in the world and offered a high package. She exclaimed, "Antavaranna patayisi madhuve aagbeku!"(Should butter them and marry!). I wondered if both my friends were crazy. Let’s see if whom they find themselves -- The ever-elusive pot of gold :)