A pretty face and fine clothes do not make character.

"A pretty face and fine clothes do not make character." - Anonymous Proverb.

We are, often, impressed taken away by the beautiful things and those which look attractive. First impression is the best impression, is the most widely accepted statement. Though this statement holds good, we tend to ignore other important qualities, that a person posses. We are always judged on how we present ourselves, how well we talk, the best "brand" clothes we wear, the jewelry, hair groomed, the footwear and of course the perfect figure which most models maintain starving on health food. Its the physical beauty which most crave for even when it comes to decision making while choosing the soulmate, where one truly ignores to see the soulmate's quality. What one observes is the physical appearance which diminishes as we age. A better body shape, a pretty face and of course fine clothes and hair do, leave fine imprints during the first meet. Most people advise, the first meeting and the couple of meetings followed are judged upon how well you carry off yourself, how well you talk and "impress". Most of us worry, what to wear best on first date especially when it turns out to be arranged marriage.

If you are too modern, wear fitting jeans and T-shirt, then the girl does not fit into the family and might not do any household at all. "Din bhar bahar ghoomege aur kaam kaaj kuch na karegi". "She wouldn't even looks after her kids in future and would leave them at day care."

In addition, you you have short or colored hair, and spend time on make up and cosmetics, then, mind you, you are too stylish and spend hours grooming in front of the mirror, a beauty with no brains.
If you have piercing or a tattoo, then you are a total gone case, totally unacceptable material to the society which we live.
If you are traditional, wear a bindi, salwar kameez, a dozen bangle, braid your hair, then you are a typical homely girl, fit to stay at home and prefer to look after home. You are a naive, seedhi-saadhi ladki.
When someone mentions, that they are modern or looking for modern girl, I indulge in a deep thought, if they refer to the looks or refer to the modern thinking. However, most of them refer to the former. Most of us are scrutinized based on looks than the education, job, good qualities, hobbies or achievements. Sometimes, I end up with blunt questions which annoys others, "I see you have mentioned you are looking modern girl, what does the word 'modern' mean exactly to you?" 

..and you obviously know what the usual answer is. 
"Oh, according to you, if girl is posh, wears good clothes and presents well, she is considered to be modern and respectable and not based on other qualities?"

~silence~ 

People would never grow up and remain in 18th century thought process and would never be modern thinkers.



Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:
a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.

b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.

c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.

d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.


I am hopeful this situation changes but in a long run. It would takes decades or even centuries to change the mindset of people that has been uprooted since time immemorial. 

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”
“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

XOXO
~manasa~

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